itisjustmyopinion

Hello again..nice to ’see’ all of you..hope all is going well for you and your families..

I am sitting here at the computer, mesmerized by the flashing cursor,  trying to think about a subject to discuss and share my feelings on the matter.  And this is what came to mind.

i have been dating since i was 17 or so..well actually, i did have a boyfriend of sorts in Jr. High. Our relationship consisted of him carrying my books for me and sitting with me at lunch time.

Now, reflecting on my social life, i really didn’t have a whole lot of boyfriends; let’s just say that i had more ‘friends with benefits” than actual boyfriends..which, by the way, was a win/win for me at the time because i wasn’t looking for my soul mate.  That is a whole other ‘oprah’ show, so i will just keep moving along now..

To be fair, i have had 15 or so boyfriends. And reflecting back on it, i have noticed a pattern.

The pattern, that actually i have noticed since my early 20’s, goes like this..Girl meets boy, girl dates boy, girl has intimate relationship with boy, boy breaks up with girl, and the climax is…wait for it,

Yep you guessed it..after the break up, boy marries the very next girl that he meets.   This has happened 13 times..that i am aware of.   What are the odds on that?  i would think the odds would be astromical. Lucky me.  So, after a great deal of self analysis, i have come to some conclusions.

The first, and most obvious one, is that in all these relationships, the common denominator is me.  So given that, i then come to the conclusion that maybe i am defective in some way; but that can’t be the answer.   So then that leads me to think that the men i have dated are defective.  Although some were pretty messed up, that doesn’t answer the question sufficiently enough for me; it is not the end all be all answer.

Then i had a brilliant ‘light bulb’ moment.  With the belief of mine, i believe that everyone, and yes i do mean EVERYONE, is given a gift (or in some cases, several) from God. Whether this gift is big or small is a mute point, but everyone does possess some kind of talent.  Just a side note, if you do not agree with the last statement, you are one of the many many people who haven’t found your gift..yet.

Therefore, the ultimate conclusion is that one of my gifts is a guy fixer-upper.  Now don’t get me wrong, i do not enter into a relationship with a ‘Florence Nightingale’ approach.  I know that going into the relationship with the idea that i can ‘fix’ guys is a guarantee that this phenomenon will happen again.  So i stray away from that kind of thinking.  I go into a relationship with an absolute trust and understanding that it has the potential to go on to the next ‘level’..ie a committed, monogamous relationship..and from there, leads to a marriage, eventually.  But this does NOT happen in my case.

Thirteen out of fifteen times is too many for me to consider that it is just a coincidence, or fluky timing or whatever phrase works for you to describe the situation.

I make a few jokes about it.  Like, for instance, maybe i will start a business; and call it “the re bounders”*. It will be an out and out legitimate operation; not a front for prostitution. That would be illegal; and Heidi Fleiss is not a role model for me. i would employ men and women of caliber, of course, and our clients can date my employees, for as long as it takes them to get ‘fixed’..get them to the point where they are then able to meet their spouse-to-be, and they can ride off into the sunset together.  And after they pay us for services rendered, i can stand at the door way of my ‘office’ and holler, ‘NEXT’.  Everybody wins. YEAH BABY!!!

Now, like i said this is one of the jokes i make about this whole thing that happens with me.  But the jokes are actually a cover up, a self-defense mechanism.  They are a band-aid to put on my heart to hide the scars that were left behind; and i have many. Fortunately enough for me, i have dealt with that baggage. I am okay with it, for now.

I know that I cannot be the ONLY one on this earth that this has happened too.  There are probably plenty of people that this has happened to at least once.  But 13 out of 15; honestly?

Another conclusion is that the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior (thank you, Dr. Phil).  So i have just learned and accepted that i am, and probably always will be single.  I am not having a pity party or crying in my beer; just putting the truth out on the table because you can’t fix what you don’t acknowledge (Again, i say, thank you, Dr. Phil).  I know, without a doubt, that there is someone, ( if not only one person) out there who knows how this feels. Odds are that they probably have not had it happen to them as consistently as i have, but they still can understand the sentiment.

So for all those men out there, if you are broken, shattered, ripped to shreds, and completely devastated, give me a shout, and i will do my very best to help you out.  As you have read, you know that i have a great record for success.  I’m guessing it is about an 87% chance of success, give or take.  Well, actually it is an 86.666666666% chance,  but for argument sake, i just rounded up.

In all honestly, i cannot explain why this happens.  I just must be the luckiest person in the world. I will continue to be spreading joy and happiness wherever i go and give those who need it, the ego boost they need, and put them out on the road to finding their true love. So be warned, if you date me and break up with me, you will, more than likely, be married to the next woman you meet.  And please remember, i do reserve the right to refuse service to anyone, for any reason. So be very careful what you wish for.

But after all, it is just my opinion.

May God bless you with happiness and prosperity throughout this extremely unique and history making year.

* “the re bounders” is a copyrighted term and cannot be used without the expressed written consent of, well, me.

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