itisjustmyopinion

Hello again; i hope that this blog finds all 4 or 5 of you that read this blog in fine spirits and good moods.  i sincerely hope that all is going well for you and yours. Thanks again to all of you who do read my blogs and give me input..i have said it before and will continue to say thanks, because it really does help me.

i don’t think that this blog is going to be very long; but we will see where it goes…so i make no guarantees.

To fill you in, just recently a male friend of mine on Facebook, who, btw, i have known since 1979, was given an ultimatum from his girlfriend..delete me as a friend or she was walking out the door…UNREAL! There is more going on there in that situation, it isn’t just our friendship, but i will stick with what directly involves me…

She doesn’t like the way i look..okay, go tell God about it, i didn’t ask to look the way i do..and she was reading far too much into the convos we would have…they were no where NEAR inappropriate in any way, because i do NOT go there. i have way too much respect for their relationships then to start that game.  This whole thing has been shocking to me.  Not only that but it hurts me and it pisses me off.

i have extended offers to my male friends who are in relationships that i would enjoy starting a dialogue with their wives and girlfriends if they were up to that because i think that is only fair. i have had no takers yet; but i am holding out hope.

i understand all too well, believe me, that there are some real crazy women out there in cyberspace that will stalk and hunt down men in relationships and cause all kinds of problems.  Unfortunately for her, i am NOT one of those women…i never have been, and i am not going to start now.  i have had it done to me far too many times to count, but that is on those that did that. i am responsible only for my actions, and part of that behavior does not include causing trouble in others relationships. i take the golden rule way on this subject..i do NOT want it done to me (ever again), so i don’t do it to others.

i cannot control what others do. i can only control myself and my actions.  And it hurts, and it pisses me off when other women, who don’t even know me, AND won’t take the opportunity to get to know me as i have offered, place judgments on me.  It isn’t their place to judge me anyway, but if they are going to continue to do so, then fine; i can’t stop them.  What’s done is done…and the damage left is i no longer have a really good friend in my life and that saddens me; all because his girlfriend is insecure and won’t take the chance to get to know me.

i posted a note on my facebook profile for the wives and girlfriends of my male friends.  In a nut shell, i stated that if you have a problem with me, come to me with it.  Giving your man an ultimatum is only going to come back and bite you and bite you hard..

In general, i don’t know of any person who likes ultimatums thrown at them, putting them a very difficult position.  i don’t DO ultimatums; i don’t accept them, and i do NOT tolerate them because it isn’t fair to the other person to have to choose one or the other..now i am strictly speaking about the facebook deal, just so that is clear..with more serious issues, they are understandable, but this is FACEBOOK..jiminy crickets..and this is someone i have known forever and a day it seems..

So now, after reflecting on it for the past few hours (because this just all accumulated yesterday), i have decided fine..i posted the note for the wives and girlfriends; i changed my status to say that i was opening Pandora’s box and getting ready to have a whole lot of fun; and i changed my profile pic back to the modeling shoot one that seemed to get a little more attention than other pics of me.  And not only that, below the pic is a statement that says i put this pic back up because that is the kind of sweet b***h i am. you are more than welcome..; i then commented on my note, stating that if these women are going to continue to be jealous of me, and not get to know me; fine, but i am going to give you a reason to be jealous..

Now some of you out there may think this is the wrong approach, or maybe i should just let sleeping dogs lie, or something along those lines.  Well, i am sorry to dissappoint you..this is the road i am choosing of my own free will, and i am the one that will deal just fine with all the fallout that may or may not come from this action.

What these women are doing is not only wrong, it is so petty, it is laughable (as a friend conveyed to me when i told this story to them)..Life is way to short for all this petty crap. When are you going to understand this???

And, just as an afterthought, when did i become the dog that you women get to kick around and use as excuses for their insecurities and baggage that you yourself brought into the relationship? Because if that is what my job is here on earth, someone forgot to give me the memo on that one.

Not only that, i am warning you now that i am not one of those girls that will lay down and take this lightly.  OH NO….You do NOT get the luxury of judging and attacking me and making me part of the excuse for your troubled relationship, especially when i don’t EVEN know you,  and then get to just walk away. i am going to have something to say to you about that, and if you don’t like it, i don’t care. You involved me and that was not a smart thing to do. Next time, you might want to think twice before involving me into any of your problems. Because the God’s honest truth is i am NOT the problem…YOU ARE..so please do not project anything onto me..and just so you know, my blame card has been full for quite sometime now.  i have nowhere to put you on that list. Sorry.

So like i said, my advice is, and you can take it or leave it, leave me out of your crap; i had nothing to do with it, and go get some help for your insecurities and the other obvious mental problems you have.  Do something positive for you, but DO NOT EVER AGAIN bring me into the situation i had nothing to do with, or the next time, i just might start mentioning names..

but then again, it is just my opinion

take it or leave it…i strongly suggest you take it…

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